But if I'm completely honest, when I listen to other moms talk about the most recent project done by their 8 year old, I'm secretly comparing my child's knowledge and ability in that area. I'm constantly trying to determine where my children fit, or excel or lack compared to other students.
It's so easy to focus on what we're not doing or where I think my child is "behind" where they might be in a formal school. And enjoy all the guilt that comes with that train of thought.
With a school year soon coming to a close, my mind is moving on to how much better we will be next school year, when we start using _______ book, or just start fresh. But that's not how I want to finish the year.
It was not a failure.
In fact, we saw a lot of success.
I want to claim each success, celebrate them. Not for me, but for my kids -who grow most often in spite of me-but a lot of times, also because of me.
- Keeping Geography Songs going in the car led us to learn every song in under a year. My 4 year old can tell you what countries are in Equitorial Africa. I love that. (and need to video it)
- Boo loves to read--he reads road signs, movies on our netflix queue, and bedtime stories to his siblings. I tell him, "Stop reading!" And he says, "I can't, Mom!"
- Belle is thisclose to finishing math book-which is just about on-time.
- She and I have also found a time to read together-while Daddy reads to the boys at bedtime, she and I sneak off and I read to her. This is sacred time between us-time we despiritely need, I believe for our relationship both now and later.
- Big Boy and I also enjoy couch time, and are well into 100 Easy Lessons. He loves and needs this one on one time. And so do I.
Here's my challenge for anyone who home-schools: notice your successes. name them, write them down (maybe in your yearbook?), throw a party, call a friend. it's up to you. But do share them-with other moms and your kids-it is their success, too.
And of course, tell me! I'd love to hear what's worked for you!