{The Main Thing}

Sunday, March 1, 2009


Weary by Edward Radford, 1887

"The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing." -Stephen Covey


I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, a friend, among other things. And in each role, the main thing is the same. My relationship with my God. I cannot be the wife God designed me to be, or the mother God desires me to be or any other position I attempt to fill without keeping God at my center.

I have been listening to an audio series by Sono Harris on Biblical priorities as a homeschooling mom from the recommendation of the SAH Missionary (although really, I think everything Sono has said in the three messages pertain to every Christ-follower). According to Sono the two ways to maintain our relationship with God are studying His Word, the Bible, and spending time in prayer. Without these practices our hearts will become stale, cold and jaded. Our joy will be a memory we can vaguely recall. And more overtly, our sacrificial work in whatever role to which we are called, will be pure drudgery.

Last week, that was the state of my heart, my joy, my work. Drudgery.

And I was tired, even with seemingly enough sleep for an infant.

I love my kids, my husband, my home. I really do. But I found myself getting frustrated at having to do simple tasks for my kids. And where was the joy in getting on the floor with them or reading their current favorite book? Things weren't bad, just lackluster.

But I had forgotten what the main thing was. Or maybe I had too many things vying for the main thing. A clean house, well-behaved children, a strict budget, a small waistline, maybe even more comments per posts (gasp!) Just gettin' real here, people!

Well, I didn't let Sono's message go unheard. I was desperate and found hope in her words. And the words in an email from my cousin who encouraged me to get away for even a few hours. So, I treated myself to lunch at Wendy's with my Bible and my notepad, to jot down every new or refreshed understanding. And I actually talked to God about the state of my heart, confessing that I had let go of the main thing.
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And let me tell you, please, that I was given joy, energy and perspective. I can sing that He gives beauty for ashes, strength for fear, gladness for mourning, peace for despair.

I now know too, that only God can refresh a weary mom.



***UPDATE: I must give a big Shout-Out "THANK YOU!" to my awesome in-laws for treating my kids to their favorite lunch, pizza, fries and ice cream, while I was getting my priorities straight at Wendy's! Thanks, Giddo & Tata!)

13 Creative People Had This To Say:

Meredith said...

So true! It's so important to take those little moments every now and then to gain a fresh perspective. Thanks for being so candid. Have a great day.

Friend Chick said...

Sometimes we let the everyday junk get in our way. What a blessing that you were able to get away and have that time with the Lord. The refreshing and renewing that comes from Him is like no other!

care said...

An encouraging post -- thanks! That painting is worth a thousand words. I'll have to look up that series myself for one of these days! Hope you are having a better week! Thanks for the encouragement!

care said...

An encouraging post -- thanks! That painting is worth a thousand words. I'll have to look up that series myself for one of these days! Hope you are having a better week! Thanks for the encouragement!

care said...

An encouraging post -- thanks! That painting is worth a thousand words. I'll have to look up that series myself for one of these days! Hope you are having a better week! Thanks for the encouragement!

Joye said...

So timely and so very true. HE is the main thing! Thank you for your honesty--it's a breath of fresh air!

Kyla said...

I SOOO needed this post today. This just about hits the nail on the head for me!

I need to get my priorities adjusted. Which I will be doing as soon as my little guy takes a nap . . .

Sarah Mae said...

Um, excuse me, but WHERE did you get that picture of me?

;)

Rona's Home Page said...

So true. Thank you Heavenly Father.

Curdie said...

What a great painting! Her house is way cleaner than mine, though ;)

kari and kijsa said...

SO true! What a great post! Encouraging words this Sunday!
blessings,
kari & kijsa

Leigh Ann said...

I needed to read this today. I have let the main thing get away or as C.S.Lewis put it letting second things become first things and getting nothing done.
Glad I found your place.

TJ said...

Great reminder. I love the title. If you asked me what the main thing was, I would say my relationship with God. I just need to show it by my actions and words.